Saturday, January 09, 2010

I’m supposed to be working, but sometimes you just need to relax, and get your bearings straight before you embark on anything else.

Sooooo… question.

Why does it hurt? The hurt that has been caused by a loved one. Not only the ones from your bf/gf, but also those from your siblings..

Oftimes when people speak of soothing that hurt, the type of hurt that naturally comes to mind is the type that is caused by your gf/bf/hubby/wife. What people fail to realize or seldom admit is that there is also hurt when it comes to relationships with your siblings.

I’ve seen many people getting hurt because of their brothers’ @ sisters’ rash actions and couldn’t care less attitude. And seriously, if I have the chance, I would shake some sense into them and try to make them see that what they’re doing is just hurting those around them, and that they should put more sense into their head because can’t they see that what they’re doing is hurting those who love them?

To my friends who are in that situation, I would say just leave them be. But I of all people know that it’s easier said than done. I, of all people, know that it’s not as simple and as easy as it seems. So what I’m really going to say is, that it’s alright to feel that hurt, and it’s ok to cry about it sometimes (if you’re a guy and you think you have to be macho and not cry, then you’re super mistaken, because tears cleanse the soul). At the end of the day, you have to really sit down and think whether or not this is something you think is worth it for you. If you’re in this relationship but that person doesn’t really care what he does to you and puts your feelings as secondary, then perhaps it’s time to let that person go. Hard as it may be, sometimes we just have to toughen up and keep the faith, knowing that there are other people out there more deserving of our love, time, and attention.

On the other hand, bear in mind that “Just because the other person doesn’t love you the way you want him/her to, doesn’t mean he/she doesn’t love you with all she has”

Lol, I know I’m kinda contradicting myself, asking people to leave them be one moment, and telling them to not give up the next. What I’m trying to say is, to sit down and scrutinize the situation. And sometimes, hard as it may be, you will realize that that relationship has gone to its limit, and there’s nothing else you can do for it. When that time comes, have the courage to step out of it, and look on the brighter side. There are others out there more deserving of your love, and when one door closes, another one always opens.

However, if you feel that there’s still something to be saved from that relationship, then by all means, hang in there, and try your best.

I know this is all redundant, because there will definitely be someone else there who are in a better position to tell you what to do than what I’m doing now. So, just to let you know, if you ever need someone, I’m always here for you, because you know that you can count on me :)

You know who you are ;)


shaun said...

y did u write this in the first place?? lolx

choulyin.tan said...

lol cos i emo and i tak tahan :p

shaun said...

but u were directing it at someone else...weren't u??

choulyin.tan said...

hmmm...yes, I was :)

shaun said...

who arrrr ??

Choulyee said...

Goodness, hope it wasn't me.. cos when I read the sibling part I sneezed.. like it's a sign lidat.. er, it's me ka? O.O

choulyin.tan said...

someone larrrrr :p

lol dun perasan pls :D